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QUEERLY BECOMING
SEXOLOGICAL BODYWORK
Welcome to Queerly Becoming—a space where LGBTQIA+ bodies and desires are invited to unfold in their own beautifully unruly ways. A place for queering pleasure, play, and intimacy, honoring the full spectrum of experiences and expressions, and celebrating all the ways our bodies can come alive.
Queerly Becoming grew out of my own journey as a neurodivergent queer trans man, endless gratitude to this community, deep reverence for the wisdom of our bodies, and trust that, yes, we really can thrive.
I offer Sexological Bodywork as a form of queer- and trans-affirming care—rooted in consent, guided by curiosity, and above all, by you.
Here, we cultivate inner belonging: a homecoming to every part of ourselves—the quirky, tender, dysphoric, tired, brave, and, yes, sexy-af.
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Somatic Sexology, Bodywork & Coaching
Sexological Bodywork, also called Somatic Sex Education is an educational, client-led, trauma-informed and body-based modality that supports clients in reconnecting with their body, sexuality, eroticism & pleasure through embodied explorations.
A core part of Sexological Bodywork is interoception—tuning into the subtle (or downright juicy) signals of your own body. It’s noticing your breath, heartbeat, tension, arousal, and all the little sparks of sensation that bubble up in the moment. By leaning into this inner awareness, we can better understand our desires and boundaries, connect feelings with bodily states, and discover what supports us in reclaiming joy, safety, aliveness, pleasure, and a deeper sense of our (queer) belonging.
SEXOLOGICAL BODYWORK
cultivating embodied intimacy from within
ONE TO ONE WORK
I offer 1:1 sessions, both online and in-person.
I invite you to work with me in packages of 5 + sessions, as somatic work tends to deepen with trust and time. Sessions prioritize moving gradually, at a pace guided by your body and nervous system. That fine-tuning to our inner waters allows us to move at the depth that's neither overwhelming or underwhelming, but where insight, shift and growth can unfold in an embodied and sustainable way.
Our work together might include talk-based coaching and education, somatic (body-centered) practices, self-touch and one way touch - from practitioner to client - in any combination that's best suited to your needs.
The sessions are Client-Led and Choice-Centered, empowering your embodied agency. This work prioritizes cultivating your capacity to notice, name, value and communicate what's happening for you, moment by moment.
Presence, Curiosity and Unconditional Positive Regard shape the core of our containers.
Instead of wondering "Am I doing this right?", we get to gently ask "What's here right now?".
Creating a safe, ethical and professional environment are at the backbone of Sexological Bodywork. All the sessions are held within the frames of ACSB - the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers.
This is a radically inclusive and affirming space that celebrates all spectrum of humxn experiences
and the many ways you wish to explore yourself.
Queer, trans & gender-expansive folx,
and anyone under the LGBTQIA+ and GSRD umbrella.
Whether you’re out or not, seasoned, new or questioning, you belong here.
Within the LGBTQIA+ and GSRD spectrum,
this includes (yet is not limited) to :
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Neurodivergent & disabled folx
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Couples / throuples / whatever is your constellation
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Folx in all spectrum of sexual and nonsexual experiences and expressions
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Folx in poly / open / relationship anarchy/ and other alternative relating styles
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Sex workers, sex surrogates, other intimacy professionals
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Those into Kink / BDSM - and not at all
WHO DO I WORK WITH
It’s an honor, privilege and joy to meet with my favorite people in vulnerability, curiosity & care.
HOW CAN I HELP
potential areas of our explorations
Queer folx arrive here carrying all sorts of things: questions, curiosities, desires, challenges, transitions, and quiet longings for something to feel a little different in how we relate to ourselves, our bodies, eroticism, gender, neuro-expansiveness, intimacy, and one another.
Sometimes there’s support needed for something specific. Sometimes there’s curiosity about what else might be possible. And sometimes it’s simply a search for the kind of queer-centred, pleasure-positive sex education that should have been available all along.
Here are some of the areas we might explore together:
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exploring gender, sexuality, and self-expression
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reconnecting with yourself, your body, and pleasure during or after transition, or in times of disconnection
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embodied unmasking: softening expectations and coming back to your own rhythms
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cultivating presence, authenticity, and connection in intimacy and relationships
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queering sex: untangling scripts, expectations, performance, binaries, and “shoulds” to explore what feels true for you
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queering pleasure: exploring what pleasure means to you and what else might be possible
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noticing, expressing, and communicating desires, boundaries, and fantasies in ways that feel doable in everyday life
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supporting nervous system regulation, safety, and capacity for pleasure
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getting to know genital anatomy in an affirming and diversity-centred way
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scar tissue remediation and support following gender-affirming surgeries and other procedures
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navigating sex, intimacy, and pleasure alongside disability and chronic illness
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intimacy and neurodivergence: joys, sensitivities and challenges that are often unspoken
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exploring shame, self-acceptance, and your relationship with sex, body, and gender
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building a relationship with porn and masturbation that feels nourishing and aligned
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creating safer, honest and more fulfilling hookups through communication, sexual health awareness, and informed choice
And more.
If you're arriving with something entirely different—or you're not quite sure what your intention is yet, or whether this is the right space for you—feel invited to reach out. I welcome all of your questions, excitement, doubts, curiosities, need for clarity, some more questions, and anything in between.
hi, I'm Nic
I’m a (gender)queer trans man going by he/him pronouns who loves queering everything—bodies, pleasure, gender, and the ways we relate to ourselves and each other. For me, it means being endlessly curious, inviting authenticity, permission, and creating freedom far beyond binaries of right or wrong.
I’m neurodivergent, sensitive, kink- and sex-positive, and I relate openly. Consent and communication are my anchors; spaciousness, curiosity, and choice are the foundations of how I work. I aim to create containers where people feel safe, held, affirmed, and free to explore at their own pace.
I dream of a world where slowing down, resting, playing, and feeling joy aren’t seen as radical acts—but a norm.
kind words
"I had the great luck to find my self receiving somatic sexology sessions from Nic. I felt held in the most caring way. The spaciousness and tenderness of his approach was inviting for even the most vulnerable parts of me to feel safe, to show up and to finally be felt and seen. Breakthroughs not through force but softness and curiosity. My sessions with him were for me a deep dive into self love, their impact felt long after, in the way I show up for my self and also to others. I wholeheartedly recommend him to anyone who is open to meet themselves fuller."
