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Hi, I'm Nic (he/him), a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator with a decade of experience in the fields of embodiment, bodywork, and conscious, sex-positive spaces.
I'm queer and trans, neurodivergent, highly sensitive, kink- and sex-positive, and I relate openly.
I work with fellow queer, trans, and neuroexpansive folx—and others under the GSRD umbrella (Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity).
Through Sexological Bodywork, I'm lucky enough to accompany people in (re)connecting with their wonderfully unedited and authentic sense of self, eroticism, and embodiment—in ways that radically affirm how they do, or wish to, experience themselves.
I hold a special place in my heart for working with neurodivergent folx, and for the ways Somatic Sexology can support our unmasking journeys, gently guiding us towards greater self-trust, pleasure, safety, and (queer) belonging.
My home base is currently in the south of Poland. I offer both online and in-person sessions, and I'm happy to travel and meet you in a setting that feels most comfortable and accessible for you.
Before training in Somatic Sexology, I worked with groups as well as individuals in the fields of yoga, breathwork, consent, intimacy, and kink- and sex-positive spaces—through the lenses of queering, neuro-expansiveness, and radical acceptance. These experiences continue to shape how I relate to my own body and how I hold space for others: with sensitivity, compassionate presence, honest excitement, and deep care. They now flow naturally into this work, where I meet people exactly as they are and support them in becoming more fully themselves.
Besides Sexological Bodywork, most of my time is filled with forest hangouts, tending to rest and the pleasures of my body, embracing my neuro-wonkiness (with varying degrees of grace), being socially awkward, and trying to hold myself tenderly through the joys and struggles of being trans (and hitting puberty all over again).
I care deeply about diversity, equity, inclusion, and justice, and these values are woven through my work. I'm committed to ongoing learning and to continually expanding my knowledge and skills.
thanks for being here x
with tenderness,
Nic (he/him)
Being here and sharing this work wouldn't be possible without all the trans, queer, and gender‑expansive folx who came before us—those who risked everything to build a world that celebrates otherness: a world where queer and trans kids can imagine themselves as queer and trans adults, where gender‑expansive folx can picture themselves as thriving, ecstatic, erotic and desirable. Where each of us is supported in becoming more fully ourselves—in the most fluid, ever‑changing, queering ways.
I certainly wouldn't be here without trans and gender‑expansive elders who poured love and resilience into art and books, gave us language for the indescribable, and shared maps whose only destination was living life authentically as ourselves—whatever that means and looks like for each of us.
I'm leaving here a few lines from the brilliant trailblazer Kate Bornstein—whose books were among the first I read while taking my wobbly baby trans steps. Whose voice sparked a hopeful thought that maybe the way I experience this world actually makes sense.
And a bonus appreciation to S/M and kink for meeting my neurodivergence, my playfulness, my awkwardness, and, truly, all of my (erotic and quirky)self. For expanding my own limits of understanding gender. For some of my first glimpses of feeling radically and expansively at home in myself.
Safe gender is being who and what we want to be when we
want to be that, with no threat censure or violence.
Safe gender is going as far in an direction as we wish,
with not threats to our health, or to anyone else's.
Safe gender is not being pressured into passing,
not having to lie, not having to hide.
Sane gender is asking questions about gender - talking
to people who do gender and opening up about our
gender histories and our gender desires.
Sane gender is probably very, very funny.
Consensual gender is respecting each others definitions
of gender, and respecting the wishes of some to be alone,
and respecting the intentions of others to be inclusive in their own time.
Consensual gender is non violent in that it doesn't force its way in on anyone.
Consensual gender opens its arms and welcomes all people
as gender outcasts - whoever is willing to admit to it.
Gender has a lot to learn from S/M.”
― Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us,
from a talk at the 1993 Outcast meeting
“I think gender can take a lesson from sadomasochism (S/M):
gender needs to be safe, sane, and consensual.
Gender is not safe.
If i change my gender, I'm at risk of homocide, suicide or
a life devoid of half my responsibilities.
If I'm born with a body that gives mixed gender signals,
I'm at risk of being butchered - fixed, mutilated.
Gender is not safe.
And gender is not sane.
It's not sane to call a rainbow black and white.
It's not sane to demand we fit into one or the other only.
It's not sane that we classify people in order to oppress
them as women or glorify them as men.
Gender is not sane.
And gender is not consensual.
We're born: a doctor assigns us a gender. It's documented
by the state, enforced by the legal profession, sanctified
by the church, and it's bought and sold in the media.
We have no say in our gender - we're not allowed to
question it, play with it, work it out with our friends, lovers or family.
Gender is not consensual.
